Why people please?

For me, people pleasing is caused by fear. At the suggestion of disappointing someone, I feel a force that has a hold of my heart with a steady, threatening hand – ready to squeeze it tight if I do not follow the rules. As long as I follow what this unseen force desires, I will keep breathing. I know from experience and higher wisdom that the feeling is an empty threat that passes with patience. I see the woman I want to be – strong enough to withstand this fear and discomfort, to face disappointing others without the need to make them okay. As the unseen grip loosens and dissipates, to turn my face to the sun and feel the warm gaze on my cheeks, gathering me into an embrace. Beyond the fear is freedom, joy, and possibility.